exercising self-control theme

also known as: struggling with self-control, exercising self-restraint

A character notices their own emotional inclination to do (or not to do) something, and that obeying them is undesirable. The character makes a reasonable attempt not to do so.

Notes

There are two contraposed formulas for when the theme applies: wanting to do vs. wanting to not do. For example, a character may feel like taking a smoke, but stops themself from doing so because they know it is ultimately bad for them. Conversely, a character may be reluctant to stick their neck out and challenge a misbehaving superior they are afraid of, yet tries to do so because they know it is the right thing to do.

Examples

Riker urged Troi to exercise a modicum of self-restraint shortly after she picked up a young ensign on the turbolift in tng6x03 "Man of the People".

21 total · 2 choice · 6 major · 13 minor

StoryLevelMotivation
tng3x23 choice Sarek battled with keeping his emotions under control.
tz1985e3x27 choice The story was about the singer persuading Jack to get a hold of himself.
ent1x17 major T'Pol was actively suppressing her emotions in contrast with the Vulcans who embraced their emotions.
movie: Dark Phoenix (2019) major Jean struggled to keep her pent up emotions in check after becoming possessed by a cosmic force of some kind.
movie: Firestarter (1984) major Charlie struggled to refrain from using her fire starting power.
movie: Impulse (1984) major Stuart in particular was struggling with himself to keep his violent impulses and sexual urges under control.
voy2x16 major Tuvok and Lon struggled to repress their violent urges.
voy2x22 major Tuvok educated the children in Vulcan self-control of emotions.
ds95x07 minor Worf explained that he needed to exercise self-restraint more than other Klingons and that's why he's such a prude.
ent4x04 minor Ensign Jeffrey Pierce struggled to control his fear while being held in a cage.